Taking away your defenses makes you more likable

[Louis talking to Marc Maron] The first time I saw you was at Catch [A Rising Star] in Boston but like you didn't know me I didn't know you and I didn't like you on stage. The first time I saw you, you were very aggressive and you were in a lot of turmoil. I think you were just coming out of all this sort of Sam Kinison coke business so you exuded a huge amount of insecurity and craziness. [Marc] Undisciplined though, like I didn’t think I was. [Louis] You made me uncomfortable and then I met you and then David Cross, I think, said I'm going to hang out with this guy, do you want to come with me? And he told me it was you and I was like oh that guy. So then we went to the coffee connec...

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